Successful People Who Love Their Work The 4 Damaging Moves They Avoid - Kathy Caprino

Successful People Who Love Their Work The 4 Damaging Moves They Avoid Being a researcher at heart, I love to explore key trends that reflect the deepest challenges professionals face. And if I can, I like to distill down to the bare essentials the vital lessons that successful professionals and career changers have gleaned from their respective journeys. People who have built amazing careers and work-lives of significance that they love, and who find their livelihoods immensely rewarding both emotionally and financially â€" have a lot to teach us. Those lessons include how to avoid the four  most limiting actions that so often lead to unfulfilling or even disastrous job and career moves. Successful professionals avoid these four moves: Attaching to the expectation that your new direction should guarantee happiness  for your entire lifetime. People get so stuck and confused â€" and take the wrong steps  â€"  when they operate with the hope or expectation that the next move has to meet their needs and wants until the day they die. Forget about that. If you’re like me and the vast majority of people I’ve ever met, you will change and grow so much in the next 20 years, that you won’t even recognize yourself. It’s completely unrealistic (and crazy-making) to wait until you think you’ve found the one move that will make you happy for the next 50 years. As an example, the very things I strove so hard to achieve in my 20’s and 30’s â€" trying to gain more and more responsibility and higher levels of corporate success â€" are completely unappealing to me now. I’m so much happier, healthier and more fulfilled (and earn more money) in my own business, developing my own programs and services, and marketing resources that I feel have a genuine impact, rather than supporting corporate objectives that felt meaningless (or worse) to me. Successful people who love their work focus on making the one move that will create the most happiness and reward now and in the next chapter (say, for five  years). Go for that direction with gusto, and give it your all. If you continually commit to doing what you need to do in order thrive  today, while also planting the seeds for your future self, you’ll head in the right direction. Tip:  Determine your  true, authentic action style,  and focus on career moves that will help you leverage and honor that style and your  deepest values. That’s the pathway to success, if you do it in the right way. Always going for the “safe” thing, not the thrilling thing. Passion has somehow because a dirty word in our professional world, but I disagree with that wholeheartedly, and so do the thousands of people who live for their work, see great significance and value in its impact, and love it every day. Passion is what you need to weather the harsh challenges. Passion is what will drive you to succeed against all odds, and keep you going when all else fails you. Passion (the kind that is aligned with your authentic values and beliefs) looks like this: thrill + commitment = impact. “Safe” career moves, on the other hand, almost never get you where you really want to be in the long run, for two core reasons: 1. Nothing outside of you is truly “safe.” No job, employer, organization, direction, etc. is foolproof or change-resistant. Your industry or your job function can literally disappear overnight or in a few short years, even though you were sure it was “safe.”  I learned that first-hand after the tragedies of 9/11. A huge part of the business I worked for was focused on travel, and it was instantly flattened. 2. Safe doesn’t allow for growth, and growth towards our highest potential is what makes us happiest and most fulfilled. Yes, stretching out of our comfort zones is scary. But I’ve found there are two types of stretching â€" one that leaves you disappointed and one that brings you higher: • Doing something “scary” that conventional society expects of you (like asking for a big promotion, or taking a more senior “desk job” because it’s the “responsible” path) vs. • Doing the one brave thing that thrills and scares you  to expect of yourself Do the latter and your career moves will keep pointing you in the right direction. The most profoundly impactful, productive and inspiring contributors and professionals have braved up in a big way, and continually pursue what they authentically believe is their own highest peak, not someone else’s. They don’t worry about conventional thinking and “brules.” They go for what thrills their hearts, minds and spirits. Tip:  Identify the three most thrilling and juicy directions, then research thoroughly what it would take to assume the professional identity required of these directions. Don’t leave one stone unturned. Research, shadow, intern, volunteer, contribute, run a project â€" try it on in every way possible, like a suit of clothes.  Understand deeply what these directions would mean and demand of you. Then choose the one that fits the best with who you are and what you value, need and desire. Asking the absolute wrong people for advice. Those who have tremendous success and joy in their work surround themselves with the right supporters, advisers, advocates and ambassadors who lift them up. Countless other professionals try to get help in their careers, but often ask the wrong people. They ask their spouses, their friends, bosses, family members, even mentors whom they think will aid them. But many of these individuals turn out not to be the best advisors. Why? Because they haven’t taken the right steps in their own lives and careers to reach their highest potential, and don’t know how to advise you correctly toward reaching your visions. Here’s how to know who to ask for help: 1. Are they thrilled with what they’re personally doing? 2. Can they offer advice that isn’t just about how they did it, but that will help you (with your unique style) become the best version of yourself? 3. Can they get behind what you’re trying to do, even if they have fears and judgments about it? 4. Do you feel they know and respect the real you (not just the public facade you present)? Many family members and friends are threatened by a huge shake-up in the status quo. They may be intimated by or even jealous of what you’re trying to do, and so they offer advice (subconsciously) aimed to keep you playing smaller than you dream to. Tip:  Find five mentors who are doing what you dream to do, whom you admire, not only for what they’re doing, but how they’re doing it. Ask if you can connect with them and learn more about their trajectories, and what they did that was bold and scary, to get there. Look at the “power gaps” they’ve overcome. But don’t reach out to a total stranger â€"  follow these key steps  to finding the right kind of mentors, advocates and sponsors who are already in your sphere. If you have no one in your immediate world who fits that bill, expand your horizons and grow your community. Leaping to another direction to heal your wounds. Successful people who adore their work and are amply rewarded in it don’t just “arrive” there. All through their lives and their professional journeys, they’ve been brave enough to recognize their internal demons, and jumped in the cage with them, facing them head on. This past year, I had a revelation â€" I saw that a full one fifth of my Amazing Career Project course members who are struggling in their careers have had experiences in childhood that severely damaged their self-esteem. Those who’ve suffered at the hands of narcissistic parents are particularly vulnerable, and need a different kind of support to fulfill their career and life dreams. I’ve started working with a larger number of  adult children of narcissists  who’ve suddenly learned that the challenges they’re experiencing at work are stemming directly from the dysfunction, hurt, pain and damaged self-confidence they suffered at the hands of narcissistic parents. This is a stunningly painful discovery â€" that the bad stuff you thought was happening “to” you randomly is actually something that you’ve unconsciously and repeatedly attracted into your life and career. I’ve discovered too what I call  The Pendulum Effect  â€" the experience of getting to a point where you simply can’t stand your work one more minute, so â€" like a pendulum â€" you swing to what you think is the farthest point away from what you’re doing now. I lived the Pendulum Effect. After a brutal layoff in the days following 9/11, I was sick and tired of feeling terrible, and I ran away from corporate life and earned a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and launched a practice as a therapist. It was a life-changing experience and I’m so very grateful I did it, and I use every one of the skills I learned in my work today. But, in the end, living the life of a therapist wasn’t my ideal professional role and was very challenging in a number of critical ways.  (I didn’t know then about the need to research and “try on” a new direction as fully as possible, to ensure it’s a great fit before you put all your eggs in that basket.) After pivoting once again and pursuing running my own business as a coach/consultant/trainer, I’ve found the ultimate path for me. The mistake I made was thinking that being a therapist would magically solve all my problems and heal all the personal and professional pain from the past. It couldn’t and it didn’t.  Sadly, the same toxic challenges I had faced in corporate life re-emerged five years later in my new profession, until I finally figured it out. Tip:  Look at what you dislike most in your work, and endeavor to change it  now. Most folks don’t want to hear that â€" they just want to run so the pain will vanish.  I promise, if you run away, you’ll find yourself staring directly in the face of the same problems that made you flee. Take a good long look at what’s happening â€" at the patterns you’re recreating, the toxic relationships you’re hooking into, the boring work you can’t escape, the bad boss who devalues you every day, the customers and clients who treat you poorly, the money you can’t seem to make, etc. â€" and make a dramatic change in yourself so you operate differently in the world. When you do, these damaging experiences need never happen again. Finally, your work success and reward will grow without limit. To build the best, happiest career for you, join my online course The Amazing Career Project (enrollment ends Sept. 23!).

Whats Your Excuse for Not Seeking a Better Career Fit - Hire Imaging

What’s Your Excuse for Not Seeking a Better Career Fit - Hire Imaging We’ve all heard the proverbial excuse statement by the student who’s not ready. “The dog ate my homework.” We probably know a child who has uttered a series of reasons not to take a nap. The person who rationalizes not getting to a decluttering project, taxes, and yes, finding better work, defined simply as work that you think will make you happier (for whatever reason). Employed folks want to transition for a myriad of reasons. And yet, they are often stuck. Many of my clients come to me to help them get unstuck. Part of the process sometimes is to break down the excuses for inertia on their part. Here are just a few of the “why-I-cannot reasons” I’ve heard over the years. And my responses. I Can’t Excuse #1: I can’t do anything else. I don’t have other skills. I feel lucky to have my present job, even though I don’t really like it. I’m afraid of losing it. I might not be that lucky again. Barb: Transferable skills! Dig into your career stories  for where you did similar things. Where else could you use them? Have you looked at low-cost training to sharpen or add new skills for new work? I Can’t Excuse #2: I hate rejection. I don’t want to put myself in a situation where I’ll be turned away. Why walk into a closed door? I already lack confidence! Barb: In job search, YOU are doing the choosing; not the other way around. Take back your power! Connect with folks; gather information; let the rest take its course. And ask yourself, “What is the worst that can happen?” So, you hear “no”. Okay. On to the next one. There’s a yes in there. I Can’t Excuse #3: I’m too old for change. I don’t have the fire or energy to tackle today’s search. And it’s awkward to say I’m not happy at work at this stage. Barb: One is never too old  for new challenges. Changing work is not the declaration of an offender, but the spirit of an adventurer who has something wonderful to offer, and wants to contribute where there’s a need. I Can’t Excuse #4: The other might be worse. I’m miserable at work, but at least I know what to expect. It’s secure. What if I jump into something even more draining? In a headstrong way, I’m comfortable. Barb: Give yourself permission to create a passport, explore the other side of the grass. What’s out there? What are folks doing? If you don’t like what you see, stay “home”. Risk is part of the deal. But it is inevitably the “never trieds”  we regret at the end. I Can’t Excuse #5: It’s not that bad.  My job is tolerable. I don’t look forward to Mondays, but I can stand it. Others have it worse. Why shouldn’t I bear some pain too? Barb: When will it hurt enough? When your family and friends talk about the calm, nice and likeable person you used to be? Do you have to settle? If not, why are you? I Can’t Excuse #6: I don’t want to rock the boat. My life is predictable and comfortable, even if not exciting. I don’t want to change my family’s routine. Certainly not a move or change to their security. Barb: Sometimes the emotional health of you and your family may be more important than a financial adjustment, move to a new place  or change in schedules. Ask those you care about. They may have been waiting for a signal. They may be much more supportive  than you imagined. Career transition can be very therapeutic, a wonderful exercise in introspection peppered heavily with detective work and exploration. Whether your search brings you back to where you are or takes you to new opportunities, well, enjoy the journey of I can. No excuses needed.  Photo: anna gutermuth

Answering the Question, What are your salary requirements

Answering the Question, What are your salary requirements ANSWERING THE QUESTION: WHAT ARE YOUR SALARY REQUIREMENTS? Lets look at what you should do if salary comes up in the early stages of the interview: First, YOU SHOULD NEVER BRING THE TOPIC UP! Never, never, never bring up salary questions until you have a JOB OFFER! But, if they bring it up, you have to address it, even Though it is inappropriately early. In the early stages of the interview, wanting to know your salary requirements is simply a screening tool. In other words, they want to know if your salary is realistic for the position is it too low, meaning perhaps you arent as qualified or appropriate as you seem, or that you are higher than the salary range they had set. Now, if you are higher, you are probably thinking that you would want to address this early on and not waste your time no! Stop for a moment and think, have you ever bought something that cost more than you set out to spend after you heard about its value? Perhaps a car with added features or a house or even a washing machine? Three positive outcomes could come out of this interview even if you are out of their price range: A. You could convince them that you are worth the extra investment.B. You could create a new niche for yourself.C. You could be put into another position other than the one for which you interviewed. So, why burn your bridges with a straightforward answer that might ruin your chances for consideration? You must play the salary game. Here are a few ways you might offset this question being asked early in the interview: A. At this early point in the interview process, I dont feel that either of us has gained enough information to value my skills for the job yet. Could we please address this at a later point in the interview process? B. Whats important to me at this point is not so much the salary, but whether I am the right person for the job. I am certain if we both end up agreeing that I am the right person for the job, well be able to come to a fair agreement, dont you think? C. Im negotiable, what do you have allotted for the position? With answer C, you are likely to experience one of two answers: A. We havent determined that yet. . .B. The range for the position is $XX to $XX. . . With the above, dont feel that you have to commit to a number in the range. I once dealt with a student who, in interviewing for a job, used answer C. The employer responded with, The position pays between $12 to $15 an hour. The applicant thought for a moment, decided that she was too experienced for $12 but not experienced enough for $15, so she said, $13.50. She was hired at $13.50. The next applicant we sent a few months later was coached not to feel she had to pick from that range. She kept her mouth shut and was offered $15 with the same level of skill as the first applicant! At this point, the interviewer might accept your brush-off answer, or they may decide to push for a commitment. You might next be asked, You must have some idea of your financial needs? or Certainly you have a range in mind?or even, hats the least youll take? Well, you cant get around this. What you must do is have a range of pay to offer the employer with a very limited commitment to any particular dollar amount. In order to do this, you have to do your homework first on salary issues including: A. Your financial requirements (wants and needs).B. What the market will bear (range of pay for this job in this marketplace). A should not be too hard; you just need to do your budgeting. Never go into an interview without some kind of concept of what you want to make, need to make, and how realistic that amount is for your market and level. For instance, you should not be interviewing for a receptionist position in a small office in Florida if your salary requirement is $22.00 an hour. The most you could reasonably expect to make in this position is probably $9.00, and that could be on the high end. A. Salary Survey and Pricing Yourself Determining rates of pay for the position can be a little more complex, unless of course the company published a range. Some of the methods you can utilize to determine salary is: A. Competitive research: Visit competitors websites to see if they post salaries.B. Professional associations: If you are a member of a professional association for your industry, contact your local chapter. To join or gain information, visit your public library and ask the Reference Librarian for The Encyclopedia of Professional Associations.C. Visit salary information Web sites such as https://www.salary.com/ and https://www.payscale.com/. Once you know your needs and what the market will bear, you are more prepared to handle this question. Stick to a range. Never, never say, the absolute least Ill take is. . . or my ideal salary would be. . . Trust me, you could very easily have just undersold or oversold yourself too early in the interview process! Stick with a non-committal answer such as:As I mentioned, at this point I really dont feel I have enough information to commit to a dollar amount. However, based on my knowledge of salary ranges for this position and my personal salary requirements, I am expecting the position pays somewhere in the $40s. . . or Id prefer to leave this topic until were more certain about my appropriateness for this position. However, I am expecting that the position will be somewhere in the $60s. . . See, that isnt too hard. Again, it is just a matter of doing your homework and knowing yourguidelines so that you dont sell yourself out of the job. Also, if an employer asks you, Would you accept $XX,XXX for your salary, you MUST counter with, Is that an offer? If it is not an offer, refer back to one of your earlier answers about not being sure yet, etc. You are just being tested. An excerpt from Career Directors International Employment Interviewing Course

How to Write Visual Resume Writing

How to Write Visual Resume WritingVisual resume writing is necessary when you have few sentences to state what you have to say. You have to grab the attention of your readers and let them know what you have to say.The concept of visual resume writing, is to highlight and describe the most important of your qualifications. Your resume must be visually appealing so that the reader would surely take some time to examine it.You need to use certain tricks to get the best out of your resume. In most cases, we do not notice these tricks but they are actually there but we do not find out about them.o Use pictures to show your qualifications. Your potential employers would naturally feel that you are credible when you showcase a picture of yourself in your ideal position. By showing your resume with a picture of yourself at your ideal position, you are sure to inspire people. Being an owner of a marketing and public relations firm, I always tried to show my skills and qualifications in my pho tograph in my resume.o Do not over-communicate on your resume. It may sound a bit formal but actually it is a correct way to communicate in this day and age. Do not expect to be understood every time you write and state your skills and knowledge on your resume.o Over-use the keywords and points and let your eye not follow your words. You can't say everything on your resume without placing some keywords. Make sure you don't go overboard and become aggressive with your word usage. Instead, use your keywords sparingly to show the vital points of your skills and qualifications.Avoid listing all the skills you possess on your resume. Let your resume to show what you can bring to the table and will bring to the table.

What Is So Fascinating About Words to Avoid when Writing a Resume?

What Is So Fascinating About Words to Avoid when Writing a Resume? Words to Avoid when Writing a Resume Features You might find a work application design template for an entry-level situation, and you're going to locate a template intended for nearly any kind of job or career you're interested in. Attaching your picture to your resume isn't encouraged in some countries such as Canada where migrant job rate is presently on the increase, even though it is acceptable in some other nations. Maybe you're searching for a new job, or simply seeking that advertising at work. If you're asking for a student job in an investment bank you could be compelled to compose a fixed number of words for your cover letter. You are going to learn some essential methods for your resume and cover letter, like words you ought to use or avoid. There are myriad action verbs available. There are different words and phrases that you are likely knowledgeable about. Your resume should be updated with re levant information whatsoever times. The Hidden Gem of Words to Avoid when Writing a Resume The software procedure is launched once it decided that Job Corps may become your program to find a person. Resume Keywords are centered through your base abilities. In addition, when writing your resume you might want to use keywords to make yourself stick out from other applicants. You could be persuading, to eradicate mentioning of the jobs you've been doing to make extra money for virtually any reason. You also wish to prevent words which may indicate you're putting a spin on your experience or work gap. You just have a short time to produce an impression with your resume. After writing your own restart that's military, ensure you may be competitive and our intent is to boost your price.

Why recruiters are not paying attention to what youre saying in interviews

Why recruiters are not paying attention to what yure saying in vorstellungsgesprchsI have a confession to make. Years ago, 34 to be exact, at the start of my professional career I was an employment representative for a local university. Today, the position title would mora likely be Recruiter or Talent Acquisition Specialist. The job title may have evolved, and the technology employed is now far more advanced. But the fundamental responsibilities of the position remain unchanged even today. Find candidates. Screen candidates. Interview candidates. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) When I say interview candidates, I mean a lot of interviews. Six to 8 interviews a day. Five days a week. Two years. That is more than 3,000 interviews if my math is correct. Now the confession. Not every single one of those interviews was gripping, edge of your seat theatre Some of the interviews were mind numbing boring. At least once a day, in an interview, I would ask a question and then immediately zone out. By zone out, I mean my brain went to another place and time. It would return a few minutes later when the candidate had finished the answer to the question. I, of course, had no idea what they had said or what valuable information they may have shared about themselves and their value to our organization. You can relate if you have ever been driving a car and several minutes go by when you find yourself at the next stoplight with no idea how you got there.I would like to tell you that my problem was unique, a symptom of life in the 1980s and that the probability of recruiter zone out in todays day and age is non-existent. But I would be lying. Its just human nature. We are not built with an infinite attention span. We need mental stimulation and active participation to stay mentally engaged in any activity. Specific to job search and interviews, research from Monster.com indicates thatThe average interviewers attention span looks so mething like thisAs you begin speaking, the interviewer is listening with nearly full attention.After about 10 seconds, he begins listening with less intensity.After 60 seconds, his mind begins to wander and hes devoting less than half his attention to you. After youve been speaking for 90 seconds without interruption, the interviewer is barely listening at all.So, if maximizing engagement and attention span with your interviewer is a critical element of a successful job search, whats the secret to being interesting in an interview? The answer is conversation. More specifically, you need to turn your interview into an actual conversation. We define a conversation as the informal exchange of ideas by spoken words. That definition might andrang counter to your view of an interview as a series of formal questions and answers. If you dont learn how to master the art of the conversational interview, then you run the risk that your interviews will always be a series of formal, dry, zone o ut inducing questions and answers.In todays world of electronic communication, email and text messaging, it is possible that we are a little out of practice when it comes to informal conversation. That is not an indictment of any specific age group. We all, regardless of age, now have our heads buried in our smartphones. The good news is that conversation is like muscle memory and riding a bike. You never forget how to maintain a conversation. Its human nature. You just need a few tips and techniques to adapt conversation to a job interview. Here are a few essential tips.Above all else, be interested in and inquisitive about your interviewer, the company and the position. Interest is best fueled through preparation. Research your interviewer on LinkedIn to identify areas of common interest and career experiences about which you would like to explore in greater detail. Research the company beyond the standard tour of the company website. Read articles from industry trade publications , postings from industry-specific groups on LinkedIn and the standard Google topic search.Take the time, before the interview begins, to build some rapport with your interviewer. Small talk and informal questions as you are getting settled will both ease your nerves and put your positive personality on display. Your pre-interview research gives you the building blocks for the small talk. For example I saw in your LinkedIn profile that you are fluent in three languages. That is a fascinating skill. How did you become so proficient in each language?Be a storyteller. Every question you are asked is an opportunity to tell an engaging story that highlights your personality and value proposition. Work to formulate your answers to most of the behavioral interview questions using the standard STAR technique. What was the Situation? What was the Task that you performed? What was the Action that you completed to resolve the situation? And what was the quantifiable Result of your action?Keep t he conversation going. End every one of your answers with a related question designed to amplify your research and your value proposition. For example, after answering a question about how you facilitated a successful team project, you might ask I see that you use an open concept amtsstube design here. How do you use the open office space to leverage greater team collaboration?And finally, have big ears and laser sharp eyes. By that I mean listen, really listen to what your interviewer is saying in response to your questions. And maintain eye contact. Dont fake it. Stay engaged, have fun and view the interview as an opportunity to learn. Your best will shine through in an engaged conversation.The art of conversation just takes a little practice. And it makes life more interesting.I love to watch penguins. They all look the same, sound the same and pretty much do the same things every time I see them. I just dont want to be one in an interview.Dan Troup is the founder of the AdvantEd ge Careers coaching service. If you are interested in learning more about how a certified career coach can assist you in your job search, please contact AdvantEdge Careers at https//www.advantedgecareers.com/

Top 10 Companies Hiring Interns In March 2019 On WayUp

Top 10 Companies Hiring Interns In March 2019 On WayUpTop 10 Companies Hiring Interns This Month On WayUp (March 2019)The hunt for summer 2019 internships is in full swing. And while many companies are wrapping up their hiring season for Summer 2019 interns, plenty of companies are mucksmuschenstill hunting for the best talent.That meansyou.Not sure where to start your search? These 10 companies are hiring a ton interns right nowand they all have amazing programs.1. PwC2. LOral3. Deutsche Bank4. Coinmo5. Lockheed Martin6. Enterprise Holdings7. Arconic8. T-Mobile 9. Raytheon10. McDonalds CorporationDont see your perfect summer spot on this list? Explore more top companies or start searching for your dream internship on WayUp